Welcome back to the Gott Sex Blog! More than just sex advice, we are pleased to offer you research-based tools and skills from The Gottman Institute for building sexual relationships that work.
Everyone in a committed relationship knows that sex and relationships go hand in hand with one another. It’s not too surprising then that couples that can talk about sex usually have happy relationships and better sex lives.
Statistically speaking we know from research that we conducted at our Seattle Love Lab that:
50% of women who say that they are able to talk about sex with their partner also say that they enjoy passionate and fulfilling sex lives. For those women who don’t talk about sex with their partner, the satisfaction rate is only 9%.
If you are having trouble talking about sex with your partner, read Sex As A Conversation or try our Sex Love Maps exercise, both of which were created to help couples jumpstart this process of open and effective communication. It is always sad to see people wasting years just, “going through the motions” when it doesn’t have to be that way.
But great sexual relationships are not just about being able to talk about sex, they are about trying new thing and experimenting. “Variety is the spice of life.”
Below we have a few new ideas and better sex tips that are designed to increase your passion, love and romance. Let’s take a look at some things that you can do together with your partner this week to really make your relationship spicy.
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Monday: Read an erotic book out loud together or rent an adult film and watch it. Find a passage or scene that you like and reenact it.
Tuesday: The countertop in the kitchen is a great place for oral sex…
Wednesday: Help your partner masturbate to orgasm while you watch.
Thursday: Take your time touching one another, with the rule that there will be no intercourse tonight, only pleasuring one another.
Friday: Talk about what you liked best the last time you made love. Then make love using this knowledge.
Try out these sex ideas, and be sure to share your own favorite ways of spicing things up below in the comments.
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