Whether things are going great between you and your partner, or you have stopped having sex altogether, this series will help make sex more passionate and personal for both of you.
The Gott Sex? Series is primarily video-based and consists of nine modules, each with its own downloadable exercises designed to get couples to start communicating about sex in an open and effective way. However, it does much more than that. To be as comprehensive as possible, we have included a huge amount of additional content, resources, interviews with real couples, and extras to help you get your sex life exactly where it needs to go.
Lots of sex education sites are all about the mechanics - lick here, touch there, try this new contorted position, add some whipped cream... And those are fine. But few (if any) of these sites teach you how to make sex deeply meaningful and intimate. And once you've had personal and deeply loving sex, you'll agree that intimate sex is definitely more fulfilling in every way.
To get what we mean when we say good loving sex, think about the difference between personal, loving sex and pornography. When people hear "pornography," they think of internet sites, videos or magazines. But "pornography" is also very common in people's sexual relationships, because at its core, pornography is about only getting off for yourself, and using your partner's body parts to both titillate you and bring you to orgasm. It has almost nothing to do with your partner's pleasure, needs, or feelings. There's no cherishing of each other. It's genital to genital release - and that's about it. There's no building of emotional connection and closeness.
On the other hand, even though physical release may be involved, loving sex is a cherishing of each other's minds, hearts and bodies - the whole person that is our partner.
Couples who have loving sex treasure each other as irreplaceable, like the finest wine. They think of each other as "my beloved," not "the hot body I get to have tonight." They long to touch their partner not just to get off, but as a way to express the pure delight, warmth and awe that is the music of lovemaking.
In long-term and lasting relationships where couples enjoy intimate sex, they make love a lot over the years. But rather than getting bored, the lovemaking keeps getting better and better, because these couples communicate about their needs, their fantasies, and their feelings as those evolve over time. It's that ability to communicate about sex that we want to give you here: the tools to know your partner's wants, needs, special preferences, vulnerabilities, and delights, so you, too, can share in loving sex, and not just mess around with body parts. Loving sex leaves you close and fulfilled, not empty and alone.
If you have been enjoying following us at the Gottman Sex Blog, you will love what this series has to offer! Be sure to head over to the Gott Sex? Series Official Website and take a look around. If you have any questions about the interface, please do not hesitate to ask. Contact information can be found on the website under the “Contact Us” tab. Overall remember this: every positive thing you do in your relationship is foreplay. No matter where you're starting from, you too have the potential to create loving and beautiful sex with your partner. So enjoy!
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