Monday, January 23, 2012
Pillow Talk: Reinvigorate Your Relationship
Day 6: Say “I love you” after sex.
Clinical psychologist and marriage counselor Dr. Randi Gunther recognizes four main stages of romantic sex: courtship, sexual arousal, orgasm, and pillow talk. This fourth stage, when couples are in the afterglow of lovemaking, is an important time to nurture deep affection and build emotional intimacy. Couples often experience a heightened sense of connectedness following sex and can use this time to discuss bedroom performance, share sexual fantasies, or exchange expressions of love.
It is not realistic to expect deep and meaningful discussion after every time you have sex. There simply aren’t enough hours in the day. But whether it be a few minutes or a few hours, it is important to allow time for post-coital bonding. A simple “I love you” or other loving gestures may be exactly what your partner needs. Verbal and physical affection is a way to savor your sensual connection while extending the passion of sex into your everyday life. So from now on, save some time for pillow talk! Remember that cuddling, intimate conversation, and sweet nothings are an important part of the sexual experience.
Hope your week is off to a sexy start,