Perpetual Problems Around Finances
What are perpetual problems? Perpetual problems are the problems we argue about over and over again. They are part of … Continued
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Managing Conflict: Solvable vs. Perpetual Problems
Knowing the difference between the types of problems all couples have is the key to avoiding gridlock.
Does Flooding Play a Role in Your Perpetual Conflict?
Is your fight-or-flight response keeping you stuck in an unhealthy cycle of conflict?
Small Things Often
Welcome to Small Things Often, a podcast from The Gottman Institute Successful long-term relationships are created through small words, small … Continued
How to Heal from Past Relationships
What role did the Four Horsemen, relationship phases, flooding, and perpetual problems play in your past relationships?
Manage Conflict – Part 3
Once you accept that 2/3 of marital issues are about perpetual problems, you can turn your attention toward the next essential skill in conflict management: learning to Dialogue About Problems.
Put Feelings Into Words and Ask Open-Ended Questions
Enjoy more intimate conversations by learning to label your emotions and asking questions that beg for a detailed response.
Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy
Who doesn’t want a relationship that has a wonderful friendship base, tackles gridlocked and perpetual conflict with ease and humor, and a shared meaning system that inspires the best in oneself?
Newly Engaged? Answer These Questions Before You Say, ‘I Do’
Don’t get so focused on the wedding that you forget to plan for the marriage.
Why We Need to Stop Playing the Blame Game
Most of us are perpetual blamers. But why should we give it up?
Gottman Relationship Coach Bundle: All About Conflict
Drs John and Julie Gottman are excited to introduce this Gottman Relationship Coach collection, All About Conflict.
The first program, “Dealing with Conflict” teaches the basics of communication in conflict. You will learn which of the problems your relationship faces are solvable, and which you may continue to encounter. If any of these perpetual problems have you stuck, the Gottmans can help you get “unstuck” and understand each other’s perspectives. “Dealing with Conflict” helps prepare you for the regular, inevitable moments of friction that are bound to arise in any relationship.
The second program, “What to Do After a Fight” teaches how to navigate more difficult arguments and the feelings that come along with them. If “Dealing with Conflict” makes regular communication “smooth sailing,” “What to Do After a Fight” helps you address rough waters to keep your relationship from capsizing. Often, more serious arguments arise because they touch on values and beliefs one or both of you hold dear. Explore what’s underneath the storm with the game-changing exercises contained in this program.
NOTE: If you already purchased “Dealing with Conflict” or “Making Up After an Argument” individually and want to take advantage of this special offer, make sure you are logged in to your Gottman Connect account and the price difference will automatically be deducted from your purchase of the second program.
What are Your Core Beliefs and Needs? (and why it’s important to identify them)
When it comes to conflict, knowing the issue underneath the problem is half the battle.